Wim Hof Method Challenge Day 12

I missed my shower completely yesterday, marking the first slip up in my challenge regimen. I’ve been consistently doing three rounds of Wim Hof’s breathing technique and at least 2 minutes under a cold shower every day since April 2nd. I’ve tried morning and night, with my sons and solo, with varying breaks and workouts, and indoors and out. I stopped timing my breathing retention as that was a distraction that hampered my performance.

It seems to always bring me what I need, a charge to start my day or a blasting away of the day’s detritus.

One notable exception was when I first tried to do the breathing outside with my boys. They were fidgety and wild with their breathing and I let it get to me. I quickly adjusted and have learned to enjoy their enthusiasm while, at once, they become more disciplined.

God bless and thank you for reading,

Jason

Unschool Therapy

One of my favorite places to be after a long day of ups and downs is with my boys as we write, build, draw, and collaborate on all manner of creations long into the night.

God bless and thank you for reading,

Jason

Digging for Courage: The Advantage of Not Knowing

I’m a better home educator when I know what I don’t know. That’s the space where I can get curious with my sons and discover alongside them, modeling the paths toward knowledge.

I’m living in that space now. Information about the biggest event in my lifetime is changing and contradictory at every turn. I’m teaching myself to embrace the uncertainty and remember that it is the place where we discover the most truth.

God bless and thank you for reading,
Jason

Digging for Courage: This Is Not Homeschool

I’m borrowing the title from the latest episode of The Harmonious Homeschooler.

We haven’t “homeschooled” in years. Before my wife died, we were trying to figure out how to explain our educational philosophy briefly. “Unschool” fits by definition, but denotes a negative. Although we intentionally discarded many of the assumptions of twentieth century schooling, our focus was not merely against the status quo. We were focusing on a love of learning fueled by our love for each other as a family. We discovered that our philosophy was greater than educational, it was holistic. Or it aspired to be, at least. We came up with “learning lifestyle.” It’s not very good as a conversational shortcut; but then again, nothing in the realm of home education lends itself to shortcuts.

Two years after losing my wife, I was embracing child-led learning and ambition more each day. My sons continued to train in jiu-jitsu and desired to compete in tournaments, where they learned how tough winning and losing can be. They took theater classes and learned discipline, history, narrative, and the nuts and bolts of production. This led to a taste of bigger stages and an urge to pursue professional acting, so I took them to an open audition where they earned a spot on a talent agency roster. Road trips, nature hikes, museum meanderings, gymnastic classes, quidditch…the adventures were countless.

Then the restrictions of governments in response to fears surrounding a novel coronavirus shut down all of our pursuits.

Our Learning Lifestyle changed over a course of days. The grounding consistency of training sessions at Elevated Studios, the new challenge of classes at Olympiad Gymnastics, hosting a growing Lego Club in our home, church services and Sunday School, and the excitement of getting ready for their first professional acting auditions…all gone.

For four weeks I have sought some reordering of our lives. Most of that time has been in search of meaning. Friedrich Nietzsche wrote, “He who has a why to live can bear almost any how.” I was searching for the wrong why. I wanted to know why the world had gone mad with irrationality, forgetting that the world had never been rational. To expect that now was my own madness.

The why I need is, “Why the Learning Lifestyle?”

The answer is within me, in need of revisiting, refreshing, and retooling. It’s exciting and scary to work on the fundamentals, especially when you’ve already built so much on the existing paradigm.

This isn’t homeschooling, this is something new.

God bless and thank you for reading,
Jason

Digging for Courage: The Wim Hof Method

I started Wim Hof’s 40-day challenge this morning and it super-charged my day.

I did three rounds of 30+ intentional breaths with a long retention after the last exhale of each round. The physical and mental sensations were obvious and brightened me all over.

I threw in 30 minutes of relaxed yoga while I listened to Russell Brand interview Hof. I finished with my new favorite pose, a tripod headstand.

Then I took a hot shower before stepping back, turning the water cold, and easing back under for more than two minutes. Once I acclimated, I even did a little jig like Hof does in his free video course.

It was envigorating in a deep way. I felt free of, and prepared to take on, the fear possessing my fellow man.

I’ve tried quite a few new things in the last couple years. This experience was on the level of my first hot yoga class at Yoga U and the biggest newbie success with a technique tried at home.

I’m excited to share this 40-day journey.

God bless and thank you for reading,
Jason

Digging for Courage: A Busy Sunday

I’m quickly coming to love the new opportunities afforded through Zoom technology.

I attended Sunday School, a salon-style discussion on Coriolanus, and an Aroma Freedom Therapy (AFT) session today.

The parable of the Good Samaritan was the brought up in Sunday School and has been a theme in our house for weeks. Are we simply following the rules of society by social distancing and self isolating? Are we acting in love when we celebrate junk food binging and how many empty bottles of wine we have on the counter? Regardless of what you have been told is right, does it feel right? Does it feel right to sit in your comfortable house with your spouse and children and type in ALL CAPS at neighbors who may be in genuine pain as they watch an insane world alone from their couches?

It doesn’t feel like we are treating ourselves or our neighbors with the same love that Jesus walked. I pray for answers of how to live in love at this time when the rules of society have become so burdensome.

With these puzzles on my mind I turned to finish watching Donmar Warehouse’s production of William Shakespeare’s Coriolanus. Some lines spoke to me:

“That’s sure of death without it, at once pluck out/The multitudinous tongue; let them not lick/The sweet which is their poison.”

“Anger is my meat.”

“For I will fight against my cankered country with the spleen of all the under-fiends.”

“He is grown from man to dragon.”

“Now the red pestilence strike all trades in Rome/And occupations perish!”

Shakespeare always had something for today. Coriolanus’s mother curses Rome with a disease that will destroy its economy. It’s a reminder that nothing, not even coronavirus, is new under the sun.

The fear and anger of nearly every character speaks to the air breathed by so many articles and posts. The willingness of the people to follow elected leaders, first one way, then another, speaks to a modern populace more likely to parrot rules than question narratives.

I admire Coriolanus’s singularity of purpose. In the most confusing world I have ever faced (quite something for a dad who became a widower at age 38), I am lost for purpose. I have found myself loving people more in being separated from them. “I shall be loved when I am lacked,” serves as a mirror to my heart.

At the same time, I see that love as a rarer thing. I read as neighbors bark rules at neighbors and never pause to ask, “Why?” At least not asked deeper than to repeat words from the same leaders and media who have lied us into countless wars among ourselves and against others.

Yesterday Coriolanus warred against Aufidius. Today he wars by his side. Tomorrow? Betrayal and death. It’s the guaranteed outcome of every war. People against people and a wreckage of property and lives strewn about.

The difficult questions pile up. They are all useful, all pointing me where I need to go.

These questions took a backseat as I went on a two-hour driving adventure with my sons. For for the second leg, they agreed on listening to a Jordan B. Peterson lecture. The subject was Toxic Masculinity and afforded us many topics that will no doubt create numerous conversations in the coming days.

After dinner on-the-go and a long day, I thought I was used up. I grabbed the phone as I changed into pajamas and discovered that my friend, Julianne McElroy, was just going online with a complimentary AFT session. She had told me about this technique of combining essential oils with classic psychology, but I had never tried before. In a quiet blink, two hours passed and I was standing in tree pose, taking claim of a greater understanding of, and compassion for, the world.

It was a Sunday of firsts. The kind of busy exploration that my mind craves. Yes, we got out of the house, but much of my gratification was found at home today.

My mind expanded and my blessings multiplied. I have taken the first steps on my next journey.

God bless and thank you for reading,

Jason

Shakespeare Saturday

After a gloriously lazy, and uninspiringly rainy, Saturday. My sons and I finished the live action version of The Lion King, based on the plot of Hamlet. We interspersed that with watching the first half of a theater production of Coriolanus, starring Tom Hiddleston.

Each of them are intense stories with strong lessons about humanity.

God bless and thank you for reading,

Jason

Fear-Based Decision Making

There are moments when I am filled with peace, but fear is pressing in on me. It’s not my fear, but the fear I feel in virtually everyone’s actions and words. Many people are acting out of fear of the government, fear of losing social capital, fear of uncertainty, and fear of their own instincts.

For my part, I try to be aware of that fear. I’ve been ALL CAPPED on Facebook and, at best, dismissed when I’ve presented information contrary to the dominant narrative. I’m grateful to discover which of my friends are warriors and which I’ll be glad to see gone from my life. I’m grateful for a family structure that is loving and built on massive amounts of time together. I am grateful for a girlfriend who wants to visit us and hungers for time outside. I’m grateful for a singular friendship, no, kinship in Christ, in widowhood, in single parenthood in homeschool, in never blindly accepting the narrative…a woman who could be my twin sister.

I’m a blessed man. I try to live in peace and love. But these last couple weeks have been plagued by a creeping fear.

God bless and thank you for reading,

Jason

Delaware Fun-A-Day 18: Peace Between Animals

Compassion. Evolution. Creativity.

Westen, 10-going-on-teen, started this scene with a hunter looking for prey. In real life, we got the opportunity to purchase this white wolf and it seemed like the perfect challenge for his minifigure.

Westen cleverly staged the scene, awaiting the meet-up with the wolf’s former owner.

We got the wolf and I wasn’t paying attention as the scene was finished.

I saw the hunter lying beside the build and asked, “Westen, are you going to finish your scene?” He had built a small platform for the minifigure that blended with the surroundings and allowed for a variety of positions, I was eager to see these considerations incorporated.

“It’s ready, Dad.”

“But what about the hunter?”

“The wolf looked too peaceful, so he’s just hanging with his bunny buddy.”

It instantly became a spirit journey scene for me. I wonder if he’s the bunny riding through a peaceful wood on his mama’s back. I wonder how much good happens when we gather around the Lego table and build side-by-side.

Mary overlooks our work. We made this figure for the bowsprit of a fantastical boat we built together in the weeks after losing her.

She loved building with her boys and she was the queen of sorting. She had an organized mind, I could never keep up with her.

She might be aghast at sacrificing our largest room exclusively to Lego, but I think she’d allow some leeway under the circumstances.

God bless and thank you for reading,

Jason