It’s made me angry to hear those words. Of course you don’t know what to say. This is my pain, you can’t know it and have no right to comment on it.
I flipped that on myself to start to understand other people. Accepting their pain for what it is, finding the bravery to shut up and let it touch me. I’ve gotten better at listening and, on rare occasion, having something useful to say.
I’ve also discovered that bravery is the right word. This week I experienced loss through friends and it shook me. I didn’t know what to say, I could hardly listen, and the pain was so great I couldn’t think. I was, and still am to a degree, trapped in that pain.
There are moments that can’t be helped or fixed, they must be felt. That sucks. That really sucks when laundry and dishes call, when someone you love is coming to dinner, and when your beautifully nerdy sons are asking to go to the library.
So here I feel. I know the path through, I’m finding the patience and trust to continue.
God bless and thank you for reading,
Jason