Time to Buy a Gun

Delaware’s governor is about to sign into law permit requirements for purchase of any gun. Besides being unconstitutional and a tax against the vulnerable, similar laws in Maryland have not worked.

From the Washington Post:

However in Maryland, the annual number of murders over the past decade have exceeded the total in 2013, when the state’s permit law was passed. (2014 is the sole year that is an exception.)

This will be a costly program that does no good and will likely be struck down as unconstitutional.

Legislative analysts estimate that the permitting system will cost taxpayers about $3 million in initial implementation costs, and about $5 million annually thereafter, even after elimination of a proposed training voucher program for low-income people.

Don’t Teach

I may repeat myself frequently, but I don’t ever recall posting a “greatest hits” list of my own blog posts.

These came up today in response to the ubiquitous new homeschooler concern: Am I qualified to teach my child?

There’s a link in this one for enrolling in Delaware and some of my advice to new homeschoolers:
https://delawaredad.com/2021/09/10/to-the-new-home-educator/

A lot of bits about NOT teaching and NOT reading Shakespeare:
https://delawaredad.com/2018/10/23/dont-teach-your-child-to-read/

https://delawaredad.com/2022/06/07/schools-out-forever/

https://delawaredad.com/2022/05/26/i-dont-teach-anything/

https://delawaredad.com/2018/03/21/dont-read-shakespeare/

Some on Deschooling: https://delawaredad.com/2020/11/11/grateful-deschooler/

Still Trying

It was a long day, mostly on the road. I didn’t want to train. When I did get to the mat, I was tired and distracted.

I did it any way, drills and four messy matches.

Jiu-jitsu continues to be my hardest physical challenge.

Rookie Mistake

I had a thrilling game in goal this week. The opponent’s team boasted a skilled former teammate that I share a friendly-enough rivalry with. I had to manage a flurry of shots and physical play on the ground (no kicks to my face, but very close). One of these shots was too quick for my hands and smashed off my chest. It felt strange.

Once the scramble to clear the ball was over, I put my hand to my jersey. I was wearing my grandmother’s rosary.

There was nothing to do at that point. There is little respite in indoor soccer and the goalie never gets a break. It was protected under two layers of clothing and it had existed for decades with a woman who worked hard most of her life, I couldn’t ruin it with a little soccer, could I?

The game only got more intense. We stayed ahead, but only by one or two. I stopped a penalty kick and had enough luck to hold them to three goals. We won with five.

I forgot about the rosary and crucifix. I was elated and drained by the conflict. I went home and undressed in the dark to shower. I placed the necklace on my dresser without a thought.

I forgot to put it on the next morning. I’m not accustomed to wearing jewelry and it hasn’t become a habit.

After coming home from the studio, I went to put it on for our evening outing. The crucifix was missing from the rosary.

I searched my home, laundry, and car, but it seems obvious where I lost it.

Now I’m sitting in the parking lot of the facility, hoping that there’s an early game and I get a chance to search the field.

Check back here for the update.

Against a Sea of Troubles

It’s okay to feel guilt over the new freedoms afforded like a parting gift by loss. I got a Lego workshop and I’ve manifested an amazing life.

I’ll never not feel horrible at what it cost Mary, her boys, her family, her friends. It’s impossible to balance my happiness against all that pain.

What else could I have done? Could I have let the grief crush me forever? Yup. Fallen deeper into alcoholism and rob my sons of a father? Sure. Live a martyr to my loss? Uh huh.

I decided to grasp every advantage and freedom hidden within a storm of difficulties. I had a new journal when she passed. It had this quote from Hamlet on the cover, “Whether ’tis nobler in the mind to suffer
The slings and arrows of outrageous fortune,
Or to take Arms against a Sea of troubles,
And by opposing end them.”

It’s made me braver and more free.

The Best Birthday

I started life as a Jehovah’s Witness. I didn’t have a birthday celebration until I had little interest in them. I’d just as soon leave that day unmarked and keep doing my thing. It grew into an actual discomfort around recognizing the day of my birth.

Maybe I’ve watched too many people die to not count my life in moments rather than years. Maybe I’m too focused on the present and fear the passing of time. Maybe I was born an old crank.

Kristen and Westen did a lot to change that this week. I turned 45 on Monday and, with help from my mom and Kristen, Westen planned an elaborate treasure hunt.

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It was based on Red Dead Redemption 2, a video game I enjoy. Although the whole adventure was fun, complete with tracking clues, seeking wildflowers, and hunting a bounty, the highlight was a surprise treasure.

This was my grandmother’s rosary. While I’m not Catholic, I feel an affection toward the traditions and rituals.

My grandmother was Mary Zerbey, my late wife was Mary Zerbey, and I’ve found, at least, one more Mary Zerbey in my family research. This simple image of Mary and Jesus connects me with my faith and my feminine ancestry.

This was the best and most important (excepting the first one) birthday I’ve experienced. I felt fully loved and protected by those around me and the many generations before.